Date: 2018-02-13 14:38
I really enjoyed reading this particular article. In this day and age, many women are so concerned with their weight that they sometimes can take it to unhealthy extremes. I myself dont find ultra skinny women very attractive looking but you will find men who like that particular type. For example, my brother he is attracted to tall skinny women. Every single girlfriend of his has been tall and skinny. I have met a few of them and my first thought has always been that I wanted to take them home and feed them a proper meal to put some meat on their bones *censored*. But some of them were like that due to it being their natural physique and a few others exercised and dieted to get that way. I didnt judge them because its not my job to do so. But I have found just like you stated in your article, that most men do tend to go for a woman who is curvier and is healthy looking. As for myself, Im a Hispanic woman who is naturally I do have to put an effort into being that way because the way my body type is Im thick waisted When I gain weight, it automatically falls to my middle first (really wish it would go to my butt first) but thats just me. Its the same body I will always have for the rest of my life so I know what I need to do with it in order to keep it the way that I want it to look. And another point to make is that when a woman has had *censored*ren its a pretty common thing that her body will change. She will not have the same body that she had before she had *censored*s. If she diets, eats healthy and exercises, she might be able to get down to her pre-baby weight but her body shape will have changed slightly Some are luckier than others that that can sometimes be a good thing. Bottom line to it woman should embrace her body love herself for who she is there is a man out there that will look at you and find you to be the most beautiful thing he has ever seen in his life (you will be his ideal) even though you may not think it about yourself Accept your flaws because they make you who are, unique. But if you are not happy with the way that you look or your weight, then do something productive and change it Change your eating habits cut somethings out such as sodas, sugar and sweets eat in moderation, drink lots of water and get physical, even if its just walking outside around the block a few times a first workout/step is always the hardest to do. Set a goal for yourself and when you reach that goal reward yourself and set up a new goal. Love and respect yourself ladies do that and everything else will fall into place. 🙂
My only advice would be- Never lose weight for the sake of anybody else (comparing yourself to another) and NEVER lose weight at the behest of a man, especially if he 8767 s your man. I had stayed within a ten pound range of MY 8775 ideal 8776 weight since high *censored* until I had two *censored*ren later in life (I was 88, then 97). I couldn 8767 t seem to shed the extra baby weight as it seemed to be cumulative with each *censored*. I tried many different approaches but it kept creeping up. I wasn 8767 t huge but at 5 8767 5 8798 was wearing sizes 67-69. I had become barrel-chested and yet legs remained the same. I was personally uncomfortable with my appearance, but I look *censored* than my years and knew I was trying. For myself. I do prepare fresh, healthy food. In the meantime, my sex life completely dried up with my husband. He suggested that he didn 8767 t find me as attractive and that if I lost weight then perhaps he 8767 d be more interested. As crushing as this was (which I now know was for completely different reasons), I managed to get down to a size 65 and felt pretty good, more confident. Still no sex. I then had my gallbladder removed and lost another two sizes- 6. No sex. It crept back up when new diet stabilized- size 8. Nothing. At this point, my confidence was nil and it had nothing to do with my weight. This weight loss was gradual over a *censored* period. Exercise was sporadic and mostly included brisk walks with the dogs. The constant criticism and lack of intimacy took its toll and after I caught him with another woman, we separated two years ago. Within 7 months of separation, I had lost another 75 lbs. Not healthy! And now we are divorced and I realize that lack of sex was because he didn 8767 t want it, got it elsewhere and it had nothing to do with my appearance. It was just a smokescreen. I am currently a size 7 for past two years and weigh less than I did when I was in high *censored* (at age 57). My friends say I look too skinny- not slim, not slender, not fit- SKINNY. Yuck. Clothes are more fun perhaps but what an emotional toll. I can 8767 t gain it back for trying. And the rapid weight loss has caused my skin to sag in various places, aging me. I 8767 ve lost muscle tone everywhere, especially legs which were always shapely. It wasn 8767 t deliberate weight loss to that extent, it was nerves and depression. But I allowed another person to dictate and modify my self-image and lost my confidence and curves in the process. All I can say is: Be comfortable in your own glowing skin and don 8767 t worry about anybody else 8767 s opinion or appearance. If you are healthy and happy with yourself, that is the ultimate personal success/physical measure. . I can 8767 t get a date either but my Rubenesque roommate? No problems. Men love her body and attitude!
I don 8767 t think about 8766 what men find attractive 8767 but what I really can 8767 t stand is when women look at me and say, 8766 you 8767 re skinny. 8767 I find it vulgar and repulsive when insecure women who are sitting their eating a slice of cake or some other high caloric item and saying how they 8766 shouldn 8767 t be eating this 8767 instead of just enjoying it glare at me as if I 8767 m supposed to apologise for being height to weight proportionate.
I am a long distance runner and usually run anywhere from 65 to 68 miles during a session. I eat alot but I have to make sure it 8767 s food that is going to help me build muscle and fuel my body efficiently to keep me running at top speeds. Now, when some of these women have made snide comments that 8766 you 8767 re skinny 8767 in the past or, as one woman did, made a remark about the cheesecake I was eating, I would usually say, 8766 I don 8767 t do food guilt. I eat what I want when I want. 8767
That was a few years ago and I hadn 8767 t had it for a while because I got ill and put on alot of weight and it took me about 8 months to burn it back off when I was back to training and now the comments have started again. I was in a room with a bunch of short, overweight women who were talking about their diets and I 8767 d only been at the job a few days and I was ignoring that conversation when one of them turned around and said, 8766 she 8767 s skinny. 8767 I guess I 8767 ve gotten over the whole thing because this time I just said, 8766 I 8767 m a distance runner so that 8767 s what we look like. 8767 I am an amateur runner and I am not at an elite running weight so I don 8767 t actually look 8766 skinny. 8767 8766 Skinny 8767 to the insecure, female mind is a weird 8766 putdown compliment 8767 where some immature women will say, 8766 oh, she 8767 s SO skinny. I hate her. 8767 My mind doesn 8767 t work like that so to me, calling someone skinny is an insult. I don 8767 t do doublespeak. *censored*.
One thing I refuse to do is to 8766 apologise 8767 to any overweight woman because I happen to look after my body for my sport/hobby.
I find it really disturbing and usually I can spot the tension as soon as I walk into the room because I don 8767 t engage in that 8766 what I hate about my body 8767 bull that I see so many women doing. I don 8767 t want to bond with anyone over the things I dislike about myself.
And, this whole 8766 fat and happy 8767 thing? Don 8767 t believe a word of it. If you have to proclaim to the world how happy you are, then you aren 8767 t. Women who are obese and those who are obsessed with being skinny both have eating disorders and neither are happy. They have to pretend and defend themselves instead of actually finding out what does make them happy.
I gave up caring about those sorts because I used to idiotically apologise for looking after my body! I guess we live and learn.
I like running. I like the way it feels when I get past the 8 mile mark and I 8767 m flying. Having a fit body is a side effect of doing what I enjoy. If I had to say there is one difficulty, it would be that when I take time off, I have to remember NOT to eat the same amount that I would during heavy training. The idea isn 8767 t to be worried about putting on weight because of my appearance but because putting on weight slows my running down.
I 8767 m a senior in high *censored*. A lot of girls are very beautiful! They 8767 re young, fun, they take care of them selves, and they 8767 re beautiful at all sizes (if they look like they take care of themselves). I guess the biggest thing I 8767 ve learned so far is to take care of yourself. I was obsessed with being (or staying) thin my freshmen year. Sophomore year was great because I was running and working out with the Cross-Country team, I was very thin 5 8767 7 8776 and 685 pounds at my lightest. Lookin 8767 good! (really, it was the thinnest I 8767 ve been. I did like it and I would not object to do it again, not for the looks, but for the freedom of being outside and running for the sake of running) I stopped XC junior year because I became more involved with classical music outside of *censored* and I was practicing all the time. I gained weight. I 8767 m not proud to mention it. I hoped that I wouldn 8767 t, but that 8767 s asking for the impossible when you stop a 6 day a week workout of 8-5 miles each day and weight lifting. But that 8767 s besides the point. Okay, where was this going again?
Apart from stopping XC and gaining weight, I found that I still looked good. (I really hope I don 8767 t sound snobby about my body or something, I 8767 m trying to send a message, hopefully). I fortunately have a good fat distribution, to my advantage, it doesn 8767 t go to my stomach. I 8767 ve realized that it is okay to not be super thin. Even though there are distorted views and women who are clearly overweight are being called curvy (it 8767 s very sad if it 8767 s genetic), I guess it 8767 s because they need to feel okay, to be accepted. Kudos to them! (Again getting lost from the subject). I 8767 m 695 pounds now. I accept the way I look and I still take care of myself. I 8767 m hour glass shaped, I love wearing a bathing suit. Of course there are things about myself I would want to change to make me more confident, but the last thing a woman needs is someone discouraging her, putting her down in any way. I eat healthy and do the best I can and this is my natural weight!
So I guess I meant to say that self acceptance is important, being humble and willing to be a healthier person, take care of one 8767 s self it comes before you consider other people 8767 s acceptance of you. My inward happiness and love of my curves and non-curves and all of the above made me realize there was more to life than losing the hair on my head over looking extremely thin worrying I feel like guys can sense a lack of confidence.
That is all I have to say about that,